I’m a co-creator in my life. My part is to be as present as I can and as accountable as possible for my actions. A friend of mine once said “all we have to do is show up at the door. The rest isn’t up to us.” Easier said than done.
Everything has a price. It’s always a trade off between what has to be paid and what can be gained, and whether that gain is just for physical survival or for integrity of the heart and soul. The belief that one has to be sacrificed for the other is very powerful in western culture. I’ll stick to my belief that whilst it’s a challenge to have a really good balance, it is possible.
This moment is all I really have. A moment that holds wild dreams and powerful aspirations as well as the reality of what I’m capable of achieving right now. So long as I allow the former to live and breathe and accept the truth of the latter it will develop to the point where my dreams can actually materialize.
Vulnerability isn’t shameful. It doesn’t mean you’re a failure. It means you need love.
Barack Obama said once that without compromise nothing would ever be achieved, and the American Constitution wouldn’t exist. He added, though, that everybody has the right to draw their line in the sand.
When somebody walks away from a relationship, it could be because they’re selfish and thoughtless. But it’s just as possible they left for a real reason. It’s easy to blame the person who leaves. Not so easy to examine your own behavior to see if you chased them away.
I like people who can say “If I’ve hurt you, I’m sorry, and if you want to talk about it I want to listen.”
People who are afraid of their own feelings and don’t know what to do with them will be terrified of yours, and will pressurize you not to feel, but to be sensible and rational. What they don’t realize is that if only they could let you be and give you love and understanding, you would automatically get to that point of being sensible and rational.
When we overvalue money life will give us an opportunity to reassess our values. It will do it gently at first, but if we can’t listen, the opportunities will get increasingly painful until we can’t avoid them any more.
Humans are notoriously bad at listening to their own needs, and placing any value on them. This has been turned somehow into a saintly virtue.
If I’m judging somebody else without making the effort to know their side of the story, chances are I’m avoiding uncomfortable truths within myself. Easier to judge you than to face me. We should be careful with our judgments because they are lethal weapons that can do a lot of damage, especially if we spread them around so other people believe them too. The saying “sticks and stones can break my bones but words can do no harm” is bollocks.
Sometimes chocolate works.
